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I Am NOT a Veteran and Here’s Why

I Am NOT a Veteran and Here's Why

**Full Disclosure: I wrote this post last year on the day after Veterans Day, but after thinking on it I decided not to post it. But every year I get pushed to defend why I don’t feel that spouses should get thanked on Veterans Day, so I decided to share exactly why I feel that…


When “See You Soon” Really Means Goodbye

In the time that I have been with my husband, he has only deployed once.  He has had extended training missions, but only the one deployment, shortly after we were married.  I remember when we were dating I didn’t really understand what it was like to be in love with someone in the military.  We…


Love is NOT All You Need: The Truth About Marriage

Love is NOT All You Need

My marriage is in ruins.  That is my biggest secret.  The perfect couple, that deeply loves, that seem to have been made for each other can’t make their marriage function.  Our friends would be shocked to know the truth hidden behind carefully crafted smiles.   Marriage is not about love.  I hate to say that. …


Once, I Held My Breath for an Entire Year

Once I Held My Breath for an Entire Year

I live a lot of my life in a silent denial.  I have no delusions about what my husband does in the military.  I have no delusions about what occurred during previous deployments, but sometimes, a little denial can do your heart some good and give your worrying mind some rest. Because, once, I didn’t…


I Am Not Strong

I am not a strong military wife.  I did not spend my husbands deployment “keeping busy” as all the advice suggests.  I did not have a calm and cool exterior.  I did not keep my fear bottled up inside so that others would never guess the inner turmoil I was facing. I sat on my…